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Nevergiveup in December

Nevergiveup in December
This is my third time abandoning the chemical relaxer. My aunt paid for my first relaxer at age 18. My Mom would press and curl my hair every two weeks from the time I was about 14. I couldn't wait to fry my hair so I could be like my friends. I didn't even realize my hair and scalp were damaged until I read "Good hair" by Lonnice B. Bonner. I was looking for a solution for my extremely itchy flaky scalp. I was scratching without removing much of the flakes. It took very little to break the skin and the bleeding frightened me. I really enjoyed Bonner's book and began to see my kinky texture as something good for the first time in my life. I don't remember how many months I transitioned but I big chopped to a teeny weeny afro (TWA). I was 22 years old and newly married. My husband and I never really talked about where I was going with my hair. He was shocked and dismayed when he came home from class to my new look. I had gone from a straight layered armpit length style to a kinky TWA. His first words to me were, "you look like a dude." My hair grew fast and two years later it was a little longer than armpit--probably bra strap. I never measured and have zero pics. I relaxed several years later because I lacked confidence and gave up. A bad burn was the catalyst for my next transition but I relaxed again after giving birth to my second daughter. I was scared silly of doing 3 heads. I've learned that maintaining a healthy relaxed head is still plenty of work. I'm transitioning now because I'm ready to embrace myself. My new growth teased me every 3 months. I love to feel my naps. I have three beautiful daughters and one son. I want to help my girls to embrace themselves and my son to celebrate them as they are. I have to lead by example.

*I define "NAPPY" as the unique hair texture of tightly shrinking coils, curls and zig zags typically seen on people of African decent. I reject any negativity associated with it.*

***Big Chopped July 2007. I'm all natural and growing!***

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