Ghana_girl713 UPDATES FINALLY!!!!!!!!!!!!
Ghana_girl713 UPDATES FINALLY!!!!!!!!!!!!(aga713) avatar
I initially joined this Fotki community the summer before I entered my sophomore year in college. The year prior had been one of profound change for me. I had just moved to California to attend college, going against the wishes of my parents and choosing a path that most peers from my high school found to be a bit crazy.

Southern California was quite different from New York City - the city my Ghanaian parents now called home, and certainly different from Concord, New Hampshire, where I had attended boarding school. I was completely lost! I did not know what I wanted to study. And so, to postpone being a grown up and being "serious", I decided to take a Black Studies course that blew my mind and opened up my world!

Because of it, I began to think about the politics of my hair and that of the rest of the African diaspora. The knowledge I acquired had such an impact on my person that I decided to cut off my straight hair - what I had previously considered to be a prized possession, and allow my hair to grow the way that God and my ancestry had meant for it to grow.

Through the journey, I felt quite a bit of doubt and uncertainty in my decision. After all, as an African, I had been socialized to conform. If anyone in this community has ever attended school in Ghana or other parts of Africa, you will understand what I am talking about. In school, you raised your hand and were told the right time to speak. Questioning authority? That was outside the realm of possibility. And here I was, questioning something that has been indoctrinated in us Africans for years and years; straight hair is professional hair and if you want to succeed in life, the hair has to be straight.

My doubt was exacerbated by the fact that I went to visit my family in Ghana during my transition to natural hair. No matter where I went, everyone asked me what I was doing with my hair. Aunts, uncles, cousins, and even strangers would laugh off my decision, rationalizing that it was because I was an American now. After all, Americans are crazy. Despite the ridicule, I persisted with my decision.

Now, I am 23 and still natural. I could not be happier with my decision. There are still moments of doubt. Walking down the street, there are times when I feel as if I am being ridiculed for this hair. Before interviews, I still panic. However, having this hair has catalyzed more self-reflection and introspection than I ever thought I would experience at this age. Being different has made me ask questions that others do not ask, and I am more comfortable as a result. So, next time I go to Ghana and people question my decisions, I will not feel insecure. I will not validate their opinions of me by questioning my decisions. I will take the time to explain myself, and let them know the reasons for my actions. NO, I AM NOT CRAZY! I AM SANER THAN I EVER WAS BECAUSE I KNOW MYSELF AND I LOVE MYSELF!

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Wednesday, June 6, 2007
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English, Spoken Twi (Dialect in Ghana), Limited French and Spanish Proficiency
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